On Jun 17, 2019 I published a post on Alzheimer’s/Dementia with the intention of trying to help visitors to this website who might have a loved one or friend with the disease. Since the day I posted the article 2,792 visitors have looked at the page. The article has some great information on it and some inspiring stories to read and watch. My mother had Alzheimer’s and it was very difficult for me as a severely disabled MS patient to take care of her during her greatest need in her life. I did take good care of my mother and it cost me everything but my home and the stuff in it. I would not a change thing either. 

Back to the article. The comments below are from one visitor to this page. In the span of around 6 months visitors to this page alone have gone from around 1,763 to 2,792 which is around 1 thousand more visitors in about 6 months. I hope this article and more importantly the comments below from Collin Whitfield help move you to better understand what Alzheimer’s/Dementia does to the patient and the care giver(s) for them. Comments are welcome below.

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Alzheimers/Dementia — 2 Comments

1. colin whitfield on September 24, 2020 at 7:51 am said:Edit

How did I get here. (?) I searched to see if it was possible to ‘bonsai’ – is it also a verb? – hydrangea. In retrospect it seems like maybe a silly question, but upon landing at your page I saw the alzheimers button and thought it odd. I clicked on it, because dementia is what they said my father had at the end. My mother took care of him in those final months, my sister and I only seeing the progression in snippets – here at thanksgiving, confused, there at christmas, frightened, lost. I dont think we realized what my mother was really facing, facing a husband of forty years whose often stated biggest fear was that he’d ‘lose his mind’- he wanted nothing more than to pass with a head full of 80 years of memories – thoughts, musings, favorite symphonies, poetry, art, and his specialty, the law. His mind was his cumulative entirety – some men build fortresses, cities, nations – his castle was knowledge, curiosity his traveling throne. My mother moved him down to Florida, to hack out some semblance of serenity in an ever darkening life, but it meant that she alone bore witness to the final and wretched progression. My sister and I did not have to see what ‘brain failure’ truly looked like, my mother, in the years that followed, kept those horrors to herself. It wasn’t until I read about your mother, that I really even thought deeply about what his condition really meant – how truly monstrous its effects. I’ve been spending a lot of time with mom in this locked down life, and reading your mothers story, I was overcome with a new and searing empathy, a feeling like the last pieces of a heart breaking in slow motion, falling into the void – a realization, an understanding, and an ache of near-insurmountable breadth and depth. This post has brought me closer to my mom than Ive been in years. I did NOT scroll by this message. It touched me, moved me, shook me, and brought painful but much needed clarity. Thank you for sharing it.

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• Admin on September 25, 2020 at 5:18 amsaid:Edit

Your very welcome. I created this page for sole purpose of trying to help others who might have a loved one with this dreaded disease. As of today 1,763 people have visited this page and I hope it has helped a great deal of them. I know your father has gone home and has been made whole again and you should rejoice in this. But it is your Mother that needs your and your sisters love right now. Being a care giver is truly a hard job and it does take its toll on a person. Your Mother is just as much a victim as your Father was. The ups and downs a caregiver goes through are mentally exhausting not to mention physically exhausting to. Be sure to thank her for taking such great care of your Father and how much you love her every day. Treasure the time you have left with your Mother and do the things that make her happy in life. Peace MH